It is through yesterday’s Karaoke session that I came across a familiar song that I used to hear years ago but I always never knew the title of the song – 爱一个人好难.
It is this song that triggered me to wonder if love is really that easy or difficult especially since I have been exposed to 2 song titles that convey 2 polar extremes for all these years. In my opinion, these songs are simply doing what Economics has the tendency to do. That is, we try to make assumptions to simplify things in life and thus we may end up with different outcomes depending on what assumptions or conditions we set. So, in this context, I feel that the song ‘爱很简单’ is most apt when you are just starting your relationship as lovers at that time are still new to each other and thus they naturally feel that it is magical that they could get together (therefore, this would be one of the possible assumptions/conditions to establish the outcome stated by the song title). Yet, the song ‘爱一个人好难’ is most apt when the lovers are in the stage of giving up each other and thus it is likely that a person who are in the midst of breaking up or have broken up could associate what the singer in the song is trying to express. Thus, this brings to my point that which stand (i.e. love is easy or hard) you are more inclined to on love are most likely to depend on your current situation that you are in now. Technically, behaviour economists will term it as saliency bias. Since that is the case, I come to my conclusion that love is neither easy nor hard. But, it is a mix of the two and either of the outcomes could be relished from time to time. I come to accept the point that it requires the constant effort of both love birds to sustain this love and I believe that communication is the key to this effort. 🙂 Hence, I think that we should not be bothered by whether love is easy or hard.
Note: I am not a love guru but I am just writing down the general points of what I have experienced or witnessed from other people’s BGR. Since individuals are heterogenous, thus please don’t expect that what I wrote is full proof. I am just expressing my opinions here.
<I have bolded some words in the lyrics of the following 2 songs as I found them very meaningful.>
Song Title 1: 爱一个人好难 – 苏永康
你说你还是喜欢孤单
其实你怕被我看穿
你怕属于我们的船
飘飘荡荡靠不了岸
事到如今没有答案
我的真心为你牵绊
不管相见的夜多么难堪
简简单单的说爱是不爱
想要把你忘记真的好难
失恋的痛在我心里纠缠
朝朝暮暮的期盼
永远没有答案
为何当初你选择一刀两断
请你说声爱我真的好难
曾经说过的话风吹云散
站在天平的两端
一样的为难
唯一的答案爱一个人好难
事到如今没有答案
我的真心为你牵绊
不管相见的夜多么难堪
简简单单的说爱是不爱
想要把你忘记真的好难
失恋的痛在我心里纠缠
朝朝暮暮的期盼
永远没有答案
为何当初你选择一刀两断
请你说声爱我真的好难
曾经说过的话风吹云散
站在天平的两端
一样的为难
唯一的答案爱一个人好难
想要把你忘记真的好难
失恋的痛在我心里纠缠
朝朝暮暮的期盼
永远没有答案
为何当初你选择一刀两断
请你说声爱我真的好难
曾经说过的话风吹云散
站在天平的两端
一样的为难
唯一的答案爱一个人好难
Source: http://www.kuwo.cn/yinyue/64079/
Song Title 2: 爱很简单 – 陶喆
忘了是怎么开始也许就是对你
有一种感觉
忽然间发现自己已深深爱上你
真的很简单
爱得地暗天黑都已无所谓
是是非非无法抉择 喔
没有后悔为爱日夜去跟随
那个疯狂的人是我 喔
I love you
无法不爱你 baby
说你也爱我 呜
I love you
永远不愿意 baby 失去你
不可能更快乐只要能在一起
做什么都可以
虽然 世界变个不停用最真诚的心
让爱变得简单
让爱变得简单
爱得地暗天黑都已无所谓
是是非非无法抉择 喔
没有后悔为爱日夜去跟随
那个疯狂的人是我 喔
I love you
一直在这里 babe
一直在爱你 woo yeah
I love you woo yes I do
永远都不放弃这爱你的权利
如果你还有一些困惑 oh no
请贴着我的心倾听
听我说着
爱你
Yes I do
Come on now
Woo
One more time
I love you woo yes I do
一直在这里 babe oh yeah
一直在爱你 oh yeah
I love you woo
永远都不放弃
这爱你的权利
Source: http://geci.chinamp3.com/geci/556/geci27180.php
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